The Good, The Bad, and The Baby

I Can’t Forgive Myself For Choosing My Wife

This article was originally published on the Good Men Project on 11 October 2015. It wasn’t something I did. It wasn’t something I said. It was something I thought. My daughter was born during a long hot summer. She was our first, and like all first timers we weren’t really sure what to expect. It…

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Why Did I Turn Away?

This article was originally published on the Good Men Project on 10 October 2015. I turned away, just a few degrees, to avert my gaze slightly. I was sitting at a children’s playgroup across from a friend as she started breastfeeding her son. I wasn’t uncomfortable, she was comfortable to feed in front of me….

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The Right To Say No

This article was originally published on the Good Men Project on 3 October 2015. Regardless of what you believe about gender and equality I am going to worry more about my daughter’s safety than my son’s when it comes to dating. It’s funny that parents should worry about the distant future before a baby is…

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Singing In The Shower

This article was originally published on the Good Men Project on 30 September 2015. How many men do you know who sing? I know guys who probably sing alone in the shower, or in the car. There are always a few that will risk karaoke after enough beer. But how many men do you know…

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Superheroes: Allegories or Entertainment?

This article was originally published on the Good Men Project on 28 September 2015. A lot of things will be different for my children as they grow up. Technology and entertainment will continue to evolve and change until it barely resembles my childhood. Fortunately, their television heroes won’t be far removed from my own. Children’s…

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Telling Her ‘It’ll Be Fine’ Isn’t Helping

Recently a mom reached out on one of the Facebook groups I’m a member of. She had found out on her twenty week anatomy scan that her baby was going to have a cleft lip and palate. I can completely relate to her want for help, reassurance, and support from someone who’d gone through it…

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The Man I Am: 5 Unexpected Things The Military Taught Me (and 5 Contradictions)

This article was originally published on the Good Men Project on 27 September 2015. I was a starry-eyed eighteen-year-old when I joined the Canadian Armed Forces. I was immersed in a culture that expected more of me than I thought I was capable of giving. It forced me to grow, quickly, and figure out what…

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Socks Do Not A Good Parent Make

Always Find Matching Socks To Avoid Judgement

“I guess dad couldn’t find socks” It starts with such a simple sentence. But tone, body language and intent can change the meaning. Recently I’ve noticed socks seem to be an indicator of a well organized super mom. The Cotton tale + play cafe near us requires all guests to wear socks. So after taking…

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Becoming A More Affectionate Father

This article was originally published on the Good Men Project on 26 September 2015. I didn’t talk to Victoria as an infant. I read stories to her from the day she was born but I went about the rest of our day silently. I think she was two or three months when I realized how…

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Buzzwords Are The Spice Of Parenting

Beware The Ninja – Or Why I’m Leaving Buzzwords 2016

Do you trust someone more if they call themselves a ‘guru ‘or ‘ninja’? Buzzwords are prolific in online media and they tend to filter done to day to day (mis)use. I could call myself a parenting guru or a ninja mom but I am neither a spiritual teacher nor a mercenary in feudal Japan. I’m…

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